Written by Ken Boa, a contemporary author and founder of Reflections Ministry.
Jesus emphasized that the most important priority in life, regardless of life stage or situation, is indeed relationships; every other command ultimately falls under this larger umbrella… If you talk to people approaching the end of their lives (or those who interact with such people, like hospice and palliative care workers), it is almost without exception that some people’s primary end-of-life regrets are in the area of relationships. A high percentage wish they had: spent less time working and more time with family, especially their kids when they were young; done more for other people; and been a better spouse or parent. When we recalibrate, we do well to pay close attention to the relationships in our lives so we will avoid such regrets. If our plans and goals center on ourselves—on grabbing instead of giving, on finding comfort and pleasure for ourselves rather than showing compassion to others—then we’ve missed the heart of the Christian life. This doesn’t mean we ignore our own needs at the expense of others (we’re to love others as we love ourselves, Jesus reinforced), but neither should we become so focused on ourselves that we neglect those around us. Prioritizing people will look different in everyone’s life. God is not concerned with appearances or quantity; He looks at our hearts. Serving others quietly without anyone’s knowledge is just as laudable as loving and serving in more visible ways.
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This is the great and first commandment. And the second is like it, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets. [Matthew 22:37-40]