Written by Ben Stuart, a contemporary author. This is an excerpt from his book “Single, Dating, Engaged, Married.”
When you have a source of life, you are a source of life. But where there is scarcity, desperation will set in. And desperation can easily become exploitation of others. If you are disconnected from a source of life, your “oxygen tank,” then you will attempt to suck life out of someone else. You will be tempted to use people to try to get your sense of self validated. You will, in a moment, become a sucker of life rather than a giver of life. And this is how toxic relationships are born. This is why so many go wrong. When we bring God-sized needs to human beings, they cannot possibly succeed. Nor can we offer them unconditional love on the days they are struggling, because they are our source! We must get a relationship with God right before we will ever get a relationship right,… because it’s in the stability of walking with Him that we have the resources to be a blessing to one another. We have to be connected to a source of life if we are going to be a source of life.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. [1 John 4:7]
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